It’s time we talk about emotional abuse in the veterinary workplace.
In the veterinary world, we often associate harm with clinical errors, burnout, or physical exhaustion. But there’s another, more insidious threat to mental health in the clinic—emotional abuse disguised as leadership.
And sometimes, it comes from the most “admired” vet in the room.
The Narcissist Vet’s Double Life
Outwardly, they’re everything a vet should be: Well-spoken, popular, “compassionate,” celebrated at conferences. But inside the clinic walls, the reality is chillingly different.
- They use praise selectively—as a tool to manipulate.
- They withhold communication as punishment.
- They control others with guilt, shame, or silent treatment.
- They turn the workplace into a psychological warzone, where no one feels safe to speak.
To clients, they’re charismatic. To social media, they’re inspirational. But to those working under them? They’re unpredictable. Intimidating. Emotionally harmful.
The Damage Is Real
Living under the shadow of a narcissistic leader leads to:
- Chronic anxiety (“Will I be blamed today?”)
- Loss of self-worth (“Am I always the problem?”)
- Team division (“Why do we turn against each other just to survive?”)
- Burnout beyond the physical (“I love animals, but I hate going to work.”)
And when a team member dares to speak out? They’re labeled as “toxic,” “sensitive,” or “difficult.” Because the narcissist has already scripted the story—where they are the savior, and you are the saboteur.
Real Kindness Doesn’t Humiliate
A truly good vet uplifts. They create safety—not silence. They build trust—not fear. They inspire through humility—not control.
Leadership is not about applause. It’s about emotional accountability.
Protecting Your Peace
You have the right to work in an emotionally safe environment. To not dread walking through the clinic doors. To not second-guess your worth because of someone else’s cruelty.
Mental health is veterinary health.
Let’s start calling abuse by its name—even if it comes in a lab coat.
Dr. Geoff Carullo is a Fellow and the current President of the Philippine College of Canine Practitioners.
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